simple zack

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In general use, a complaint is an expression of displeasure. When something goes wrong, a person can feel the need to complain about it, because things did not go his or her way.

When someone complains they are putting themselves and the people they’re complaining to in a worse mood. Before I go into any further explanation I would like to list a few complaints I have heard within the last week and my solutions to them:

• Of course, “it’s too hot” or “too cold” - I don’t mean to be obvious or anything, but all you have to do is wear extra clothing when it’s cold and less when it’s hot.
• “My hair is messed up” - Before you complain about this one, think of who your trying to impress. Does your image matter enough to complain about it to others.
• “Being alone just sucks”- Simple solution: Call someone or visit someone.
• “I’m so hungry/thirsty” - If there is no available food or water at the time, get over yourself. Unless you are diabetic or actually starving, there is no need to complain.
• “I hate getting texts all the time” - Turn off your phone.
• “I’m so bored” - Do something
• “I’m so tired” - For this one I asked the person why she was tired. She told me she went to bed at 3:30 am the night before. Need I say anymore?
• “This food tastes like crap” - Unless it’s harming to your health, it can’t possibly that bad.
  
• “I’m so hungover” - Don’t drink.
• “I feel like crap” - Don’t drink.
  
• “I hate people who complain” - Okay, okay this one is my own, but I know the solution. People will complain and there is no stopping that. I won’t say this one ever again, I promise.

And my favorite one:

• “My favorite TV Show was pissing me off last night” - What?? Did I hear you wrong? If “your” TV Show was “pissing you off,” why would you continue watching it?

What I’ve listed here are counterproductive complaints or complaints that make you and the people around you feel worse. Productive complaints are those in which you see a problem and seek out a solution. When you do nothing about the problem and just simply complain, that is where you go very wrong.

So, rather than complaining out loud about nonsensical issues, question them in your head. Think to yourself if it is something you can control before you complain about it. 9 times out of 10 you can control it.

And.. substitute the complaint with a positive remark. Rather than saying, “I’m so bored,” say to someone, “let’s do something!” Or rather than saying, “I feel like crap,” say “How are you?” Avoid complaining, because it can’t possibly be that bad, can it?

So, do you complain and whine? If so, why?

or do you celebrate and compliment?